You laugh and say "oh you've got back up!" Yep, true friendship right there. You can see the fake heartbreak in her eyes, but you know that there are some real tears she is shedding in her heart. She's got several men lined up in case this one doesn't work out. She'll survive this, she can fall back on so many others. Now I don't have that many accumulated. I have no back up. She really needs to stop being selfish.
But that's not at all the situation. We're boy crazy, you could say. But we really aren't. We just like to joke around about our friends, and we claim some, we call some. I've had a few harsh names thrown my way, but I can respond with an "Oh you love me! Come here, sweetie!" We know it's all play, she knows I love her and I would never do such a thing in real life. But our text conversations usually aren't real life. They're weird situations we imagine would be true one day. We can joke like this because the possibility of it coming true is so far off.
So much would have to happen for these things to ever be possible. People would need to change, situations turned around, and honestly, we would have to be the girls that their guy friends liked. This is nothing against her or me, but I can probably say it is true for her as it is for me that we easily become one of the "bro's." Or I guess we really become the sisters. These guy friends like these that I can remember back to middle school having around were great friends, but sometimes became too comfortable with treating me like one of the guys. Soon enough I felt like they didn't see me as a girl at all, and sometimes it's important for guys, especially good friends, to remember that we still are females. I don't want my guy friends to put up walls because they think we're just such a different species, but I don't want them to treat me like a bro. I want to be able to have conversations friends have with each other, and I want to know that these guys respect me as a girl. So I don't want to be seen as a bro, because I am not. I cannot biologically be a 'brother' because I am female.
I can say I love being seen as a sister to most of my guy friends because I know I can trust them. I can be assured that they would be there to protect me and help me out. Problem for girls who are seen as the sister is when they don't want to be seen as that sister. They build up a great friendship with a guy who really is brotherly, but because girls are just problematic, they stop seeing the friend as a brother and see a potential future in him. Being like someone's sister is like being "friend-zoned" for girls. Or maybe that's just what I think. For the most part, I don't want to be anything more than some people's sister and I love all the big brothers I've come to find at Union and even from high-school, but again.. girls are problematic. So, friend, (yes, you who holds that "grudge") I feel like we could probably relate in this.
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